Thursday, December 6, 2012

Changes in Diagnostics for Autism and Asperger's


How many of you are wondering how the new changes in the DSM-V set to be released in May of 2013 will affect your child's services?
Some articles are making you think that children diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome will no longer get any services simply because the name Asperger Syndrome will no longer be used in the DSM-V. Have no fear, your child may still receive services. Just get use to calling it Autism instead of Asperger's Syndrome. There will be some changes to the diagnostic criteria to help clearly diagnose individuals on the spectrum. The name change won't determine their level of functional ability, and they will still the the same loving and adorable child as they were before.
To better understand basics about the Autism Spectrum Disorder you can find simplified answers in this book, Autism: Understanding The Puzzle...
Autism: Understanding the Puzzle

Here are a couple articles you can read if you are interested...
Asperger's dropped from revised diagnosis manual
By By LINDSEY TANNERAssociated Press
Dec. 01, 2012 3:53PM PST
"CHICAGO (AP) — The now familiar term "Asperger's disorder" is being dropped. And abnormally bad and frequent temper tantrums will be given a scientific-sounding diagnosis called DMDD. But "dyslexia" and other learning disorders remain.
The revisions come in the first major rewrite in nearly 20 years of the diagnostic guide used by the nation's psychiatrists. Changes were approved Saturday.
Full details of all the revisions will come next May when the American Psychiatric Association's new diagnostic manual is published, but the impact will be huge, affecting millions of children and adults worldwide. The manual also is important for the insurance industry in deciding what treatment to pay for, and it helps schools decide how to allot special education.
This diagnostic guide "defines what constellations of symptoms" doctors recognize as mental disorders, said Dr. Mark Olfson, a Columbia University psychiatry professor. More important, he said, it "shapes who will receive what treatment. Even seemingly subtle changes to the criteria can have substantial effects on patterns of care.""
Read More - http://health.yahoo.net/news/s/ap/asperger-s-dropped-from-revised-diagnosis-manual

  
News Release from the American Psychiatric Association
January 20, 2012
Release No. 12-03


For Information Contact:      
Eve Herold, 703-907-8640        
press@psych.org        
Erin Connors, 703-907-8562 
econnors@psych.org



DSM-5 Proposed Criteria for Autism Spectrum Disorder Designed 
to Provide More Accurate Diagnosis and Treatment
ARLINGTON, Va. (Jan. 20, 2012)—The American Psychiatric Association (APA) has proposed new diagnostic criteria for the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) for autism. While final decisions are still months away, the recommendations reflect the work of dozens of the nation’s top scientific and research minds and are supported by more than a decade of intensive study and analysis. The proposal by the DSM-5 
Neurodevelopmental Work Group recommends a new category called autism spectrum disorder which would 
incorporate several previously separate diagnoses, including autistic disorder, Asperger’s disorder, childhood 
disintegrative disorder and pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified.  
The proposal asserts that symptoms of these four disorders represent a continuum from mild to severe, rather than a simple yes or no diagnosis to a specific disorder. The proposed diagnostic criteria for autism spectrum disorder specify a range of severity as well as describe the individual’s overall developmental status--in social communication and other relevant cognitive and motor behaviors.  

Read More - http://www.dsm5.org/Documents/12-03%20Autism%20Spectrum%20Disorders%20-%20DSM5.pdf

Keep The Holidays Manageable for your Special Needs Child


by 


The hustle and bustle of the holidays can be overwhelming for children with special needs, but there are steps you can take to make it easier on them.

Holidays provide your family with a break from the ordinary, time spent with extended family and friends, and also a chance to reinforce traditions. However, jammed schedules and unpredictable routines, mixed with the sights and sounds of the holidays can add up to a season full of stress for your child with special needs.
“The change in routine is the biggest difficulty we have during the holidays,” says Sharla Jordan, mother of six boys (four with special needs) and author of Autism: Understanding the Puzzle (Lulu.com, 2011). “The unfamiliarity and excitement can lead to some difficult moments so we try to prepare our boys as best we can.” The following tips can help make your holiday season run a little smoother.

Read More - http://www.nashvilleparent.com/2012/11/keep-the-holidays-manageable-for-your-special-needs-child/

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Apps for Autism

Here is a list of 75 Apps for the iPad, check them out!

Friday, September 21, 2012

Bad Parenting?

Why do others see me as a bad parent when my child misbehaves?

I know as a parent we are responsible for teaching our children what is acceptable behavior and correct them when they make a poor choice. I completely agree. I just wish others had understanding for the fact that parents of special needs children have to continually reteach their child  how to behave appropriately. It will take the child longer to implement these correct behaviors and a lot of practice to gain control of their actions.
Being a special needs mother I know what to expect, how to contain the situation, and help my son(s) calm down. I am not a parent who give excuses or allowances just because my children have special needs. We are sure to have our sons own up to their actions/choices and make restitution for it, to the best of their ability. But just because you got hit, scratched, bit, punched, or screamed at doesn't make me a bad parent, nor does it make my son a bad child. It means that something triggered his behavior, and there was nothing I could do to stop it in that moment. Should I have to be the one to apologies for my child every time an incident happens?" I wish I could say, "It's not my fault." but I can't. So, I apologize and hope for the best. Very likely they may say something rude and avoid us in the future, but I can't blame them in their ignorance. If they could only see how far my child has come to improve his behavior they would be more understanding. If I could send one message out to the world on this topic I would say.



Saturday, July 14, 2012

Autism on Goodreads


Autism: Understanding The Puzzle is on Goodreads you can go and rate it here.



One Gene, One Drug Affect Autism Behaviors in Mouse Model

"Harvard researchers found that deleting one gene in certain brain cells causes autism behaviors in mice. They also discovered that treating the mice with rapamycin, an immunosuppressant drug, prevents the symptoms. Autism Speaks partially funded the study, published this month in the journal Nature.
The findings represent an important step in figuring out brain pathways that cause autism, explains the study’s senior author, Mustafa Sahin, Ph.D., associate professor of neurology at Harvard University. It also represents a very early step in determining whether rapamycin or drugs like it can help individuals with autism.
Past research has associated autism with certain brain cells in the cerebellum, a region involved in coordinating brain activity. These cells, called Purkinje cells, play an essential role in normal brain function. Studies using post-mortem tissue show that many individuals with autism have fewer of these cells than is normal...

Deleting the gene (either one or both copies) caused all three of autism’s core behaviors:

· Abnormal social interactions. The mice spent less time with each other and more with inanimate objects.
· Repetitive behaviors. The mice spent abnormal amounts of time pursuing one activity.
· Abnormal communication. They emitted abnormal levels of ultrasonic vocalizations."
read more click hear

Monday, June 25, 2012

"I don't know how you do it"

When someone finds out that I am a mother of six boys, with four of them on the autism spectrum, this is the most common response I hear, "I don't know how you do it!" Yes, I know that six boys is an endless adventure, and having children with autism is extremely challenging. But, when I hear this reply it always makes me wonder, "Am I NOT suppose to do it?"
Don't worry I am not offended if someone makes the comment, I know their meaning is, "Wow, I am amazed at all you do." For me I don't know any other way of parenting. I am the mom, so I am going to do whatever it takes to care for my sons. Given different circumstances I may wonder the same thing about you. I am awed at your strength and courage to face the daily challenges, even if to you they don't seam like anything special, or you feel like you can't keep going. You are doing amazing work!
I do have to say that I learned a valuable secret from some other wise mom's, "SELF CARE" This is easier said than done, believe me. However, if I take care of myself, I can handle almost anything, ( I say that while crossing my fingers, hoping I didn't just jinx myself for any surprises anytime soon.) I don't mean selfish wants of, "I need this to feel better." Anything that is a distraction will not fill up my "mommy batteries" Instead I am talking about self care physically, emotionally, and spiritually. If I take the time to care for myself, I am a better mom and have the energy to make it the next day. I make it a personal rule to do something in each area every day. I have my favorite list of things I like to do which is different from someone else, but here are a few examples for those who are looking for ideas.


Take a nap or get a full nights sleep (if I am so lucky)
Go for a walk
Yoga
Dance
Listen to Music (or sing)
Talk with a friend
Jigsaw puzzles
Read a great book
Playing a game
Write my thoughts down (hey look, I am doing one right now!)
Get a Massage
Dinner made by someone else, * this one is a BONUS!
Laugh
Take time to be still
Pray
Worship
...you get the idea


One other secret I've learned after caring for myself, is care for my husband. If he is happy and recharged, then that makes two of us to care for our family, which is a heck of a lot easier than doing it by myself. Often we take turns recharging our batteries so we can make it through another day. I am blessed to have him there to give me the much needed breaks so I have energy for later. Hopefully, you have such a great person in your life, if not a spouse, a friend, family, or a neighbor. If not, remember you are not alone. Someone greater than all of us is there watching over you, and He is only a prayer away.

"Fixing" Autism



Lou's passion for his daughter is remarkable.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Scanning brains may catch autism soon

In a new study, researchers from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill used a special kind of MRI imaging called diffusion tensor imaging to look at 15 brain connections of babies who had a sibling with autism. They found significant differences in 12 of the 15 connections in those who developed autism. Children without the disorder had stronger connections. Children with autism had weaker connections.

"The children who went on to have autism, we can see differences as early as six months, and that over time, their brains changed less," said Dr. Jason Wolff.
by Click2Houston.com  Read more here

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Hoofbeats to Healing is opening in Bountiful!


We are so excited the opportunity has arrived. Hoofbeats to Healing, therapeutic riding center, is opening an additional facility in Bountiful in just a couple weeks (this June). - Large indoor arena, horses specially trained to work with those who have all kinds of special needs. - Our boys have shown and maintained improvements over the last three years from riding at Hoofbeats. Improving brain functions, speech, interactions (social skills) and minimizing tantrums and sensory stemming.


The 20 spots open for the one day per week are going fast. Additional spots will be added in the future. The best way to reserve a spot is to call Tami Tanner 801-836-4325. You can also e-mail her but she doesn't check it often tamtrot@gmail.com.


Read more about Hoofbeats on these links below.

http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=9170140230049680882#editor/target=post;postID=5879054316842999447

http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=9170140230049680882#editor/target=post;postID=614898944571320426

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Hoofbeats-To-Healing/47832645139

Thursday, May 31, 2012

Mother of six pursues psychology degree to better understand her sons’ disorder


Mother of six pursues psychology degree to better understand her sons’ disorder 

5/10/12

Over the past 12 years, Utah's Sharla Jordan has seen four of her six sons diagnosed with autism. Witnessing one diagnosis after another, Jordan spent many of those years experiencing a wide range of feelings.
"I have gone through all kinds of emotions," Jordan said. "I have gone through anger, denial, blame, sadness, acceptance. It is never just one, and I probably cycle through those emotions every time something new comes up."
After receiving several misdiagnoses from doctors and struggling to understand the ins and outs of autism, the stay-at-home mom began researching the disorder to improve her knowledge of how she could best help her children, even publishing a book in October. Then, after years of research, Jordan decided to go back to school and pursue a bachelor's degreein psychology, as it would allow her to further her understanding of autismwhile earning credits.
Although it had been more than 10 years since she had earned an associate's degree, Jordan began taking classes toward her bachelor's degree last fall. So far, she said the experience of being an adult learner is different than being a younger student.
For example, as she is now raising six children between the ages of 4 and 16, Jordan must find fool-proof ways to manage her time. Currently, she is taking advantage of her college's online and independent courses, which allow her to stay home with her youngest son while also working toward a degree. When her son is old enough to go to school for the day, she plans on trekking to campus to complete her courses.
Although going back to school is a daily challenge, Jordan does not regret her decision. For adults who are thinking of making the same life change, she says it is important for them to think about why they are going back to school and use that as motivation. Of course, for Jordan, the thought of being able to better understand her four autistic sons is enough to keep her focused.
"If they have that desire or motivation, go back and do it," Jordan said. "It's never too late to go back to school. If you have finished a degree in something you can always go back and do something else. Just because we seek out to do one thing, 10 or 20 years later there may be a totally different road that we've taken since then." 

ABA Therapy approved by the Federal Government


Thank you Autism Speaks!

Autism Speaks Hails Landmark Federal Decision Calling Key Autism Therapy a ‘Medical’ Service Eligible for Insurance

NEW YORK, NY (May 30, 2012) -- Autism Speaks hailed today’s announcement by the federal government, the nation’s largest employer, that Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), the most widely used behavioral intervention used to treat autism, is a “medical” therapy that qualifies for health insurance coverage, rather than an “educational” service.


Click to read more

Thursday, May 24, 2012

The Healing Power of Horses

Here is an article from BYU's "The Universe" about Hoofbeats to Healing. Wonderful benefits have come for our boys riding there.
Hoofbeats to Healing is an organization founded 15 years ago by TameraTanner, and is designed as a therapeutic horse ranch dedicated to improving those with physical and cognitive disabilities.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

The Poop Page - from TACA


I read this article and found the information helpful understanding my sons tummy troubles. I hope it helps you too.



The “Poop” Page

By Lisa Ackerman and Linda Betzold


Dedicated to fellow “poop peepers” like me!
Many children with autism suffer from many issues involving the gut and their bowel movements (or lack there of). So much so that not a meeting goes by, nor a support phone conversation, that does not involve a discussion of “how are your child’s poops?”
Based on the obsession to help children “go” daily, one would conclude this process is a newly found hobby. Many TACA families take great care in discussing, analyzing and fretting over their child’s poops! (So you are not crazy! Join the club!)
For our kids (and all humans) moving our bowels daily is a key component to basic and good health. If a child:
  • Is having loose bowel movements that happen too quickly after eating (for example less than one hour) — there are issues to address.
  • Is having bowel movements two, three, four or more days apart; then they are not stooling often enough — there are issues to address.
  •  Is having bowel movements that contain undigested food particles, and you recognize the good in the toilet or diaper — there are issues to address.
  • Has a bloated belly beyond the age of two — there are issues to address.
  • Performs self stimulatory behaviors such as toe walking, flapping or posturing just before or while stooling (posturing appears to provide comfort and may include applying pressure to the abdomen by leaning against a blunt object, like arm of sofa, therapy ball, mom’s knee, etc.) — there are issues to address.
  • Alternates between constipation and diarrhea — there are issues to address.
  • Produces stool that has a very odd odor, color and/or texture — there are issues to address.
  • Has fallen behind or hit a plateau on his/her growth chart — there are issues to address.
  • Has been unable to potty train passed a reasonable age (6, 8 10 years of age) — there are issues to address.



If your child is pooping daily and still seems uncomfortable, he or she may not be getting enough stool out every day. It is important to consider these suggestions with your doctor and make sure that your child is having complete and regular bowel movements.
A few more thoughts …
  1. Stool impaction is incredibly painful, and it sometimes happens to our kids. An exam and x-ray of the abdomen (called a KUB) can help diagnose an impaction, which will likely require MEDICAL ATTENTION. Watch for distended tummies, night waking because of pain, and sometimes dramatic changes in behavior as clues. Sometimes children with stool impaction will produce thin, ribbony stool in the toilet, another clue that there may be an impaction. Sometimes children with an impaction may have diarrhea every day or every few days. It can be a little confusing or misleading, but diarrhea is the only thing that can squirt around the impaction. This can be another clue that there is an impaction. Please see a doctor for help immediately. A good gastroenterologist can make a huge difference in finding and solving the root problems unique to your child.
  2. The best pediatric gastroenterologists that understand and treat the GI issues of children with autism are Dr. Arthur Krigsman of Pediatric Gastroenterology of New York and Texas, www.autismgi.com, and Dr. Timothy Buie at Massachusetts Hospital for Children, a teacher at Harvard Medical School,www.massgeneral.org/children/specialtiesandservices/ladders/default.aspx. In many cases, if children on the autism spectrum are experiencing severe, prolonged GI-related problems, a trip to either one of these professionals is recommended.


Read More Here

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Moving With Your Special-Needs Child - 15 Ways to Ease the Transition



Moving With Your Special-Needs Child - 15 Ways to Ease the Transition
Written by Krystyann Krywko, Ed.D.;
 photo: PhotoXpresss.com 

It is estimated that 1 out of 5 families move every year; which means that for many families, the early weeks of summer are often filled with packing boxes, contacting new schools and finding new dentists. While transitioning to a new neighborhood or town can bring an assortment of stresses, this stress can be amplified when a family moves with a special-needs child. Routines, therapies and support networks can be disrupted and the entire family can feel on edge. Whether this is your first move or you are a seasoned veteran, the following tips will steer you and your family on the path to a smoother transition:

Keep them involved – As a parent, you know what your child can handle emotionally. While taking a child house hunting might work in some families, for others, it makes sense to wait. “Our children are visual learners,“ says Sharla Jordan, mother of six boys (four with special needs), “so once we had a contract to buy our new home, I drew out a sketch of the floor plan and explained where their bedrooms would be and where their toys would go. This really helped reduce anxiety.”

Read more of the Article here

Calgary's Child Magazine




(I am glad to see the author used all my suggestion in her article)

Monday, April 16, 2012

Autism Brain Research


Autism Research Unraveling Mysteries - April 9, 2012




"Research suggests the brains of autistic children may indeed be "wired" differently "right from the beginning," Paterson says. A popular theory among researchers holds that autistic people have an abundance of "local connections," in one specific part of the brain, but not enough "long-distance connections" to coordinate complex tasks among various parts of the brain, such as interpreting emotions, says Geraldine Dawson, chief science officer for the advocacy group Autism Speaks.




"The changes lie not in the brain cells themselves but in the pathways that transmit messages between brain regions, Paterson says.

"These pathways aren't visible to the naked eye. But scientists can get a sense of these bundles of nerve fibers with technology that traces the path of water through the brain.
"Structural changes in these fiber tracts are evident in the brains of children later diagnosed with autism, even as young as 6 months old."

The Arizona Republic

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

I Hope...

How many of you go through that feeling of a sense of loss more than once? This is very common at first when your child has been diagnosed, but also every time another mile stone is missed/delayed, or when another road block is in the way of your child's development. Over the last couple months we have had more than a few of these come up for more than one of our sons. I realize more and more what additional challenges I see in their future and I begin to ask "what if he can't..." I have to stop myself right then, because If I continue to dwell on that question, it brings me down and hinders my perception to see what my sons are capable of. Instead I need to say, "I hope..." and then focus on the now, because now is so important for their future.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

Laughables

Check out our new page, "Laughables", we started this page because. . .


“The only way to get through life 
is to laugh your way through it. 
You either have to laugh or cry. 
I prefer to laugh. 
Crying gives me a headache.” 
 Marjorie Pay Hinckley

Thursday, March 29, 2012

CDC Autism Rate show a rise of 25%

One out of 88 children in the U.S. has an autism spectrum disorder, according to the latest estimate by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 


Previously the CDC estimated autism's prevalence at about an average of 1 in 110 U.S. children. The new estimate suggests autism is more common than previously thought - about 25 percent more common - and may affect more than one million children and teens in the U.S.

For the CDC's study, researchers looked at autism prevalence estimates from 14 areas in the country. Since every state is not included, the CDC warned the rate "should not be generalized to the United States as a whole." But the data do show that autism diagnoses continue to increase. It's published in the March 29 issue of Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report.


Boys are still about five times more likely to be diagnosed with autism in the U.S. than girls, according to the CDC report. It estimated one in 54 boys have autism, while one in 252 girls do. The number of children identified with ASDs ranged from 1 in 210 children in Alabama to 1 in 47 children in Utah. The largest increases were among Hispanic and black children.


For 2012, the National Institutes of Health invested $169 million in autism research to improve screening and diagnosis, develop effective services and resources for families, identify potential risk factors in the environment that may cause the disorder, and for testing potential treatments.


Read the CDC report

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Autism Understanding the Puzzle - All Over the World

Thanks to all of you who have helped spread autism awareness and have shared our site. Check out the list (scroll down in the right hand column) of the 40+ countries that have visited our website AutismUnderstandingThePuzzle.com

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Showing Love for Those with Special Needs

I was telling a friend about these videos last night and I realized I hadn't shared them here yet. I share them with you now, I cannot think of better examples of youth putting aside their egos and pride to include and get to know these awesome friends and gain a greater love for one another.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

25 Words Every 2 Year Old Should Know


heidi.evans@nydailynews.com
Researchers have identified 25 “must have” words that every child should be saying when they turn 2.
Kids who haven’t mastered them might not just be late talkers — they could be showing signs of autism, developmental delays or hearing problems .
The 25 words — including Mommy, Daddy, baby, hot and hat — were the most commonly said of a list of 310 words that kids master when they first start to speak.
Parents who are worried that their kids aren’t chatty enough should consider turning off the TV. A growing body of research also found that kids develop language more quickly if they are engaged in conversation instead of parked in front of kids’ programs .
Professor Nan Bernstein Ratner, who moderated the panel at the American Association for the Advancement on Science where the findings were presented last weekend, said the 25 words are like the “canary in the coal mine.”
“When a child doesn’t have enough words at the age of 2, that is not only a problem in its own right, but it’s a signal of a variety of other problems,” she said.
The 25 words are just the baseline for toddler talkers. There is a wide range of language abilities in toddlers, and 2-year-olds’ normal range is from 75-225 words. Children who are late talkers usually have an average vocabulary of 25 words.
Leslie Rescorla, director of the Child Study Institute at Bryn Mawr College who developed the checklist, said most kids have many more.
“The bottom line is this: Children should have 50 words by the time they are 2 and they should begin to combine words into phrases,” Rescorla said. “
If they are not doing that, it’s worth evaluating them because they might have a problem you can start helping them with early.”

Mommy
Daddy
baby
milk
juice
hello
bye-bye
yes
no
dog
cat
ball
nose
eye
banana
cookie
car
hot
thank-you
bath
shoe
hat
book
more
all gone

Repeating Phrases

How many times is this button reloaded at your house?

I think we have a broken button here, 
it doesn't stop reloading the same phrases and sounds.

It may be time to invest in a pair of these.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Horse Therapy Coming Soon to Bountiful

There is a great possibility that Hoofbeats to Healing, Therapeutic Horse Riding Center, will be opening a second location in Bountiful, UT this summer. They are looking into the details now. We wanted to let those of you who live in the Davis, Weber, and Salt Lake Counties get the heads up.





These horses have been a tremendous help for our boys over the last 3 years improving their neurological functions; communication skills, interactions with others, speech, sensory processing, and significantly reducing their meltdowns or blowups.


You can find more information at Hoofbeats.us or contact Tami Tanner directly at  801-836-4325.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Light It Up Blue 2012

The Fifth Annual Autism Awareness Day will be on Monday, April 2, 2012. The goal is to light the world blue all throughout April — city by city, town by town — by taking action to raise autism awareness in our communities. Please email LIUB@autismspeaks.org for more information and tools!


Thursday, February 16, 2012

Temple Grandin the Movie



If you haven't seen this movie yet, Go Watch It!

Idioms and Autism

Our son is currently working with his speech teacher to understand idioms. He isn't quite grasping the concept and viewing the phrases literally. This comes as no surprise, because those with autism have difficulty understanding idioms, sarcasm, or puns.
This morning I called to my son to give him instructions to get ready for school.
He didn't respond.
Not being able to go look for him I called louder.
He answered and said he was just in the next room.
Then I asked, "why didn't you respond the first time I called?"
To which his reply was,
"It went in one ear and out the other."

I laughed at his literal interpretation of the phrase. Still laughing.

Thursday, February 9, 2012


Receiving the Diagnosis of Autism, What Now?


I have just been told
my child has autism.
Is there any hope?


YES, THERE IS HOPE!

          While reading results of our son's reevaluation yesterday, it brought back memories of the emotions each time our four boys were diagnosed. Like most parents I didn't want to believe that there was anything to be concerned about, I wanted my son to be "normal", but I couldn't deny that there were challenges that were getting worse and couldn't be ignored. I thought others were crazy to suggest that autism could be a possibility. I would fight against my gut instincts. 

My husband and I had so many questions and concerns. . .

 What would a diagnosis of autism mean for our son?
How would it effect him now and later in life?
Would he always have autism?
Could it be something else?
What support and resources are out there?
What would others think?
How would others act towards our son or our family?

          A diagnosis of autism felt like I was a failure as a mother. I knew very little about autism, Asperger syndrome, sensory processing, and everything else connected to the spectrum. I know now just how great of a mother I am, and how much I have grown and learned about parenting a child with special needs. I now stand in awe and respect when I meet a parent of a child with special needs. I know their experiences are unique, but still challenging like ours, and they rise every morning to meet those challenges.

            “It is hard to process all the thoughts and emotions you feel after your child is diagnosed. It’s overwhelming. The acceptance process after a diagnosis is much like going through the stages of grief: denial, guilt, anger, blaming, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. You have suffered a loss. You have lost the dream of who you thought your child would be." (Autism Understanding the Puzzle)
              
Remember your child is
still the same amazing and lovable self
as (s)he was before (s)he was diagnosed.
 Autism is not who (s)he is;
it is merely a descriptive word 
that explains (her)his unique qualities.

"Don’t see autism as a label that defines your child; instead, view it as an explanation of his challenges and strengths. If you had a child with a major health or medical issue, such as cancer, you would not hesitate to get him help. Take the opportunity to educate yourself and get a correct diagnosis." 

Accepting what autism meant for our boys took a lot of time. Even now, whenever new challenges arise, I cycle through the grieving process and its emotions again and again. I find comfort in writing down our journey in my journal. Writing helps me see where my boys began and the progress they are making now. Once I had accepted my boys’ diagnoses and gotten all the self blame out of the way, I was able to search for help and find services and therapy that would benefit them and improve their development.” (Autism Understanding the Puzzle)